Newest pregnancy diagnoses – Gestational Diabetes

The dreaded glucose pregnancy drink; yeah, I had to drink it twice! With my first pregnancy and my current pregnancy. Both times I failed the first test and needed to go back for the 3 hour test.

The drink isn’t great but the worst part was having to have your blood drawn 4 times within 3 hours. I also had blood work just 2 days prior to this testing, so my arms were feeling it by the end of this for sure.

With my first pregnancy, my 3 hour glucose test was a pass! With this pregnancy I failed both glucose tests. Three hours after drinking the glucose drink a normal blood sugar levels should be 140 mg/dL or below and mine never dropped lower than 162 mg/dL.

I now need multiple appointments with the diabetes doctor (on top of my prenatal appointments) until the end of my pregnancy. As of right now I do not need insulin. I need to watch what I eat and check my blood sugar levels after each meal. I need to keep my levels below certain levels but also should not let them drop too low.

The whole process of gestational diabetes is new to me and I’m just taking it day by day. There are risks later on for me to develop diabetes as well as my baby. There are proactive ways to help prevent that but as for now I do not want to stress about future issues that may never occur.

I will keep everyone updated on my gestational diabetes diagnoses as the updates come!

Always,

xoxo

Desiree

The First Dental Visit For Our One Year Old!

Ellie had her very first dentist appointment! It seemed a little silly since she only has 4 teeth on the top and 2 teeth on the bottom. But it was great to get her used to this oral hygiene thing and I learned a lot myself while being there.

I learned she is late on teeth, meaning they would expect her to have more teeth erupted by now. They are not concerned at all about it but said they would expect her adult teeth to also be late. If not and her adult teeth came early then they would raise some eyebrows.

I also learned she has a chipped front tooth! How she did that I have no idea! I didn’t even know it was chipped until they brought it to my attention and showed me. They said its also not something they are concerned about at this time. I asked if it is hurting her and they said no.

I also learned to brush her teeth its much easier to have her laying across two peoples knees with her head on the lap of the person brushing her teeth. So my husband sits holding Ellie facing him, he lays her back on his knees and rests her head down on my knees. I then can brush her teeth and get a good view of the inside of her mouth as well! All while he can hold her arms so she can’t stop me.

The best part was the end when the dentist gave Ellie a rainbow colored unicorn stuffy. She wouldn’t put it down for days! Slept with it at night and everything. She was so proud of herself and took a lot of pride in the reward she received!

Always,

Desiree

xoxo

She’s a Sweet ONE!!!

Elliana turned ONE!!

We had an ice cream themed birthday party for Ellie on her first birthday (which just happened to fall on a Saturday).

I bought a 10 X 30 party tent with walls for her birthday. I’m glad I did because we had a passing shower during her party! I figured I’d purchase one for future events we have as well!

Most of the decorations I bought from Etsy! The high chair skirt, banner backdrop, balloons, Happy birthday banner, etc.

We used our wooden cooler for the ice cream cups. We also dug out our tablecloths from our wedding to place on the tables! It worked out perfectly since they were white and blush pink, it kept to our pastel color theme!

I ordered 2 dozen cookies for the party.

Ellie had two cakes for her party! This one was for everyone to eat! Absolutely delicious!

This was the cake for Ellie to eat as well as some of the cupcakes we had ordered. We had a total of 2 dozen cupcakes!

Josh and I had special shirts to wear for the day!

Ellie also had a special outfit! she had 2 matching bows as well but kept taking them off!

I had purchased a bounce house for her rather than renting one. I figured they price was about the same and we can use the bounce house over and over at all events in the future as well! This held up well! Even being pregnant I can get in it with Ellie and bounce around and it will hold me no problem!

We also had a pastel ball pit set up for the kids! We didn’t get pictures of that before the rain started. We moved it under the party tent during the rain shower to prevent the water from collecting at the bottom.

Overall, it was a successful fun birthday party for our first baby! Most everyone said I did too much and went overboard with it. But that’s just me! And is it ever too much when it comes to your baby?

One thing I did buy way too much ice cream! Ellie doesn’t have many kid friends yet and the adults didn’t eat much of the ice cream. My husband says its ok we have left over ice cream because its more for him to eat now.

The absolute best part of her entire birthday weekend was the next morning when she woke up, we brought her downstairs to eat breakfast and she was completely shocked to see the living room was still filled with all her gifts! I honestly believe she thought everyone brought toys over and would take them home with them when they left. She was beyond shocked and excited when she saw they all were still here!

Always,

Desiree

xoxo

Bath Time Fear at 10 months old – How I Identified and Resolved the Problem

Bath time has yet to be an issue for us. In fact, Ellie loves taking a bath! We had a solid routine where she would take a bath each night. She knew what to expect each night and it worked for us. We don’t necessarily use soap every night, she may not need it or I didn’t want to have to worry about her skin drying out. Bath time has been nothing but fun for her!

And then at 10 months old, out of nowhere, she really hated her baths! I mean like torture! Baths were an absolute struggle every single night! She no longer would sit down in the bath, she would hear the water turn on and instant tears and panic would hit. I had no idea why things all of a sudden changed.

I did some research into it and found that it can be a sensory overload and babies around 1-2 years of age can go through a phase of having a fear of baths. True or not, I don’t know, but it did seem to describe what Ellie was going through!

So how do we fix it?

I found so many ideas of how to change up bath times to help your baby lessen their fear. I tried one simple change and it worked! Literally the first trial bath time worked! We haven’t had an issue since.

What did I do?

One thing I found is that babies can have a sensory overload during bath time. The sound of the water running can be too loud for their ears, the water touching their bodies, the water running down their face, etc.

For Ellie I used to fill the tub and then put her in once i knew the water temp was ok for her. Now I put Ellie in an empty tub and start the water so she can see and feel the water gradually increasing. I can also adjust the water temperature as needed and make gradual changes if needed. She sits in the tub again! She doesn’t cry during the bath anymore!

Such a small change but a huge difference for our baby! It was also a great reminder for me that she is still human and she does have all 5 senses, and those senses may even be even more heightened than an adults as she is using all of them everyday as she learns all about this crazy world.

Always,

Desiree

xoxo

Covid-19 is a challenging time for all, especially kids. Mother’s and kids do not need the opinions of “Karen’s” when out and about!

I wanted to vent a bit about Covid-19 and kids! Now I know there are a lot of different opinions around the topic of Covid; is it real, is it a scare tactic. That’s not the point of my post, I don’t want to go down that road. However, I do not understand why random people want to bring kids into this topic.

When you see a mother out at a store why would you feel it is necessary to comment on whether or not the child is wearing a mask?! You are not familiar with their situation or reasoning. You are not Covid enforcement! I understand you may have reasons you need someone else to wear a mask to protect you but why can’t you just keep you distance then? Why do you want to bring a child into the situation?!

We were out shopping at a local store for a backpack carrier my husband had been wanting for a while. We had our masks on but Ellie being under 1 did not have a mask. While we were in line to check out the man in front of us kept looking back at us, I wasn’t exactly sure what his infatuation with us was so I just ignored it. Eventually he was next in line and as expected everyone in the line moved forward. Our stroller with our daughter in it was over the sticker on the ground. Rather than the man just taking a step forward (since nobody was in front of him) he felt he needed to look at me and say

“Whoah! you are way past your mark!”

My husband and I both shocked by this mans rudeness neither of us said anything right off. So the man felt the need to continue and say

“We don’t need kids getting sick! Use your head!”

That’s when I knew he was more annoyed Ellie did not have a mask on and that’s why he kept giving us looks in the line. My husband had some words with this man and we found out he was from out of state, he was purchasing 2 shirts (which he definitely could have ordered online and had sent directly to his door since he is so scared).

I’ve heard other stories from other peoples experiences as well of people getting into it with kids being in public. I’ve been judge for bringing my daughter to daycare during this time. My entire point is why do people feel the need to butt into someone else’s life, especially when it has to do with kids who do NOT belong to them!

Why can’t these people just mind their own and walk away?! What makes them feel they need to say something? And why can’t they be nice if they are to confront someone?! The world today is already so different and children are probably having a harder time adjusting then most of us! Let’s let mothers make the decisions for their children and please remember your opinion was not asked for!!

Always,

Desiree

xoxo

The Reason Behind The Blog

I’ve been getting comments on my blog from people while I am out and about.

“I love your blog posts!”

“I’m so glad you shared this, I was wondering about that!”

Even just the simple…

“You’re doing great!”

These comments are the exact reason I wanted to start this blog! While I was pregnant with Elliana, I was very excited, I had a relatively easy pregnancy, I was more than ready to become a mom. Or so I thought! I was in a stable relationship, I have a stable career, we have a beautiful home with plenty of room to welcome another human into. I never under estimated when people would tell me how hard motherhood was. Sure the lack of sleep, the constant attention/care, the diaper changes, it all was going to be hard but I can handle it. Again, so I thought.

I looked at my maternity leave as a vacation. 12 whole weeks off from work?! No way would I need that much time away from work! Boy was I wrong! I struggled every single day of my maternity leave. Postpartum depression is real!

For a while I had a lot of shame around what I was going through. I would even tell my husband to not bring up the fact that I need to take depression medication. “It’s not their business” I would say.

I really needed someone to share more of their experiences during the 4th trimester. I wanted more people to talk to me about what its really like, not just what people are supposed to tell you its like. I also wanted those people to be new moms as well, not someone who’s kids are now my age. Sure they went through it all but it was so long ago. I needed someone to share everything with that was also going through new motherhood as well.

That’s when it hit me, I should be that person. I needed ‘that’ person, I can’t be the only one needing ‘that’ person. So I told myself to pt my shame and pride aside, stop holding everything in and acting as though I have it all together. Talk about my actual experiences, my actual thoughts, my actual feelings.

I started to feel better the more I opened up about it. Certain topics I would feel embarrassed or ashamed to even say. But the more I opened up to people what I went through the easier it became to be more of an open book. This is me, take me or leave me.

I then decided I should start a blog. Write all my thoughts and feelings down. Let other moms know they are not alone. I made several posts before I ever published anything. I second guessed myself. Do I really want to let the entire world know my personal business? Do I really want everyone to know how much I struggled internally? What would everyone else think? Would they assume my life is easy and I am just doing this for attention?

Then I remembered how badly I needed ‘that’ person. Someone may benefit from hearing what I went through. At the very least this blog could serve as memories for myself with my new baby.

I pushed all my pride and shame aside and posted the blog. I’ve gotten a few new moms who look forward to hearing what I went through and continue to go through! And my mental health has improved so much just from venting through this blog.

This was the reason behind the blog. The 4th trimester is a real experience, good or bad, for new moms. We all should talk more about it!

Always,

Desiree

xoxo

Expectations vs. Reality of Motherhood

I couldn’t help but think about the life of motherhood when I read a comment on one of my photo’s about how my daughter is always happy and smiling. “But she isn’t ALWAYS happy” I thought to myself. Is that what I am portraying on my social media accounts? I think we all tend to take photo’s of life’s best moments and post them to facebook or instagram. You never think to reach for your camera when your child just fell and hit their head, or is screaming and crying for no reason, or when the house is a complete disaster with piles and piles of laundry and dishes.

But this is reality! We all have been there so why not talk about it? why not share life’s not so great moments? It’s normal! Here are some expectations I may have had about motherhood vs. the reality of motherhood.

Expectation: What my kids will eat. Healthy!

Reality: If she’ll eat it it’s fair game!

Expectation: Being a mom may get hard but I’ll have it together!

Reality: Mom guilt is real! Some nights you just need to sit in a room alone and cry it out!

Expectation: I will not change after having kids.

Reality: After giving birth I swear my body underwent a chemical change and I myself am a different person!

Expectation: My kids will never do that!

Reality: Kids also have emotions and feelings as well. They will act out from time to time!

Expectation: To live a perfect life, motherhood and marriage, just like those on social media!

Reality: Nobody’s life is perfect. Sure, their social media accounts may portray that but we all go through those tough moments.

Expectation: My marriage will not change after having kids.

Reality: My marriage is a different relationship now than before we had children!

The reality is this is life. The more you accept that not everything will go as planned and not every moment will be enjoyable, the easier time you will have with accepting your life. Motherhood is all about survival, especially those early days! Don’t compare yourself to other moms! Ask advise, talk about experiences, see how they would approach a situation, but don’t compare!

Always,

Desiree

xoxo