The one thing I wish I knew

As a first time mom there are so many things people explain to you or tell you of what to expect once your new baby comes. However, if I could go back to being pregnant for the first time, the one thing I wished someone talked more with me about was breastfeeding!

So many people asked me while I was pregnant if I planned on breastfeeding. My answer every single time was yes. My knowledge on breastfeeding at that point was very limited. I was under the impression that if my baby latches on then great! I’ll breastfeed because ‘breast is best’ (how naive of me). If she doesn’t latch then I’ll have to switch to formula. Simple as that. Or so I thought!

When I answered yes to the question of breastfeeding my child every single person said good and moved onto something else. Not one person explained any of the difficulties that could come with breastfeeding. And honestly I had many surprise difficulties.

But those difficulties are not necessarily what I wish someone talked more with me about. The number one topic I wish somebody talked more about with me while I was pregnant is how to get a good latch! This is a simple thing every single new mom can take 10-15 minutes while pregnant to look into.

I went into labor with no idea about the different holds and what a good latch is and how to achieve this latch. I honestly thought breastfeeding was just natural and both my baby and I would just naturally know what to do. Not the case for me! Our first initial latch shortly after birth was very painful, a complete shock, and felt like my newborn baby had teeth! I just stuck it out and kept going. I had a lactation specialist come in the next morning to check in. This was the first person to even explain what a good latch is and how to position her to get that latch.

Over time my daughter and I got much better at breastfeeding but I feel the damage to my poor nipples started from that very first latch. If someone told me to look into latch techniques ahead of time I may have been more prepared and may have been able to salvage my nipples.

All you new expecting moms, I strongly urge you to looking into how to get a good latch! It may help prevent some postpartum stress!




Mainely Mom

Hello all,

I wanted to introduce myself and give you a short little story as to why I am here in the first place. I’ll start with my name, Desiree, but most call me Des (pronounced Dez but I hate spelling it with a ‘z’).

I was born and raised in the state of Maine. I married my brother’s best friend, a true Mainer, Josh. I describe him as a “true Mainer” because of his love for trees and the outdoors. He’s an arborist, he literally hugs trees daily! I am a full time Surgical Sales Rep, which requires me to travel often for work.

We have 2 dogs, multiple fish, and chickens on the way! Most people get a kick out of our dogs, Chloe who is an 11 year old Yorkie and weighs in at about 5 lbs on her good day (7-8 lbs if she hadn’t been to the bathroom first). We also have Brutus, a 3 year old Cane Corso and Mastiff mix. He weighs more than me! He’s about 150 lbs. We have one extreme to the other with our dogs! It can be quiet comical!

We are first time parents. I am a first time mom! How exciting, right? We had a beautiful healthy baby girl in August of 2019. Little did I know the whirlwind of an experience I would have the minute I went into labor. Having my daughter has completely changed me and my life. During the 4th trimester, I found myself so many times asking anyone and everyone that would listen

“WHY didn’t anyone tell me about this?!”

So, that’s what I am hear for!

  1. Writing it all down helps me manage and navigate motherhood as well as my mental state.
  2. I can be the person to tell new moms what I wish someone had told me!
  3. How fun will it be to document all the little things throughout my child’s life?

I want to share all things motherhood and baby related with you all; postpartum, breastfeeding, childcare, managing work, sleep training, bottle feeding, etc. I will also share lifestyle posts from time to time for fun as well.

I would also love to connect with other moms! Let’s all build each other up and provide support! I would love to help someone out with any motherhood/parenting/baby advice they may be seeking!

I am excited to share more with you all along my journey through life!

I hope you all enjoy!